When I was in high school, I was blessed to have a lot of titles. Cheerleader. Honors Student. Student Body President. But there was one title I found depressing. Dateless.
I think I was the only one to graduate from high school without being asked out. Ever. No movies. No fast food jaunts. College was more of the same until my senior year. Finally, I began dating a cute volleyball player who was kind, smart, and interested in me. I was in love. I thought beyond a shadow of a doubt, “This is the Mr. Wonderful I’ve been waiting for all my life!”
We continued dating after graduation and I hoped for a romantic proposal. Instead I got the dreaded speech on a park bench. “I’m breaking up with you because…”
I felt as though life had stopped. I finally understood every sad song on the radio.
Months turned into years. I kept waiting for the real Mr. Wonderful to walk into my life. And waiting and waiting.
By now I was in graduate school. The first time I ever saw James, he was flipping hamburgers at a barbeque social. It wasn’t love at first sight over condiments, but he did catch my eye.
The next place I saw James was unusual– a nursing home. We were both visiting the residents, reading and singing to them with a group from grad school. We discovered we had a lot in common and became fast friends. After a few months, I had it all figured out. James was the one. Unfortunately, he hadn’t gotten the memo.
I remember being so frustrated with my beating heart and all those butterflies in my stomach when James walked by. He was set on being just friends, and I was going crazy on the inside. I decided to surrender my feelings to God. I had been a Christian since junior high. I knew the same God that got me through that awkward stage would get me through this one.
It wasn’t long after that James invited me to dessert at Outback Steakhouse (originally it was going to be Dairy Queen but fortunately a friend counseled otherwise). When we sat down, he took a red rose and a yellow rose out of his blazer.
“We’ve been friends for a long time. I want to date you and see if there’s something more,” he said.
I had to pinch myself. The moment I had dreamed of had finally arrived! From that moment forward, James and I were inseparable. Five months later James was standing on the top of his ’71 Buick with a guitar serenading me at my window. He whisked me away to the beach to catch the sunrise where his sister had set up an elaborate breakfast.
He got on one knee and said, “I don’t have anything to give you but myself. Will you marry me?”
I thought he was saying he didn’t have a ring.
But he did. A big one.
Mr. Wonderful had truly arrived, surpassing all my expectations.
That happy memory happened in 1998. Today I’m happy to say James’ love for me is stronger and sweeter than it was then.
Your Mr. Wonderful
Sometimes, waiting for the right man seems like a very lonely place. Have you felt that way? I understand; I had forgotten that while I waited for the right man, there was a perfect Man walking beside me the entire time. His name is Jesus. God says in the Bible, “I will never leave you nor forsake you” (Hebrews 13:5b).
And while you wait for your Mr. Wonderful, God offers you a yellow and red rose. Can you picture Christ in your mind handing you those roses, representing His desire to be your friend and to give you unconditional love? Jesus laid down His life for you when He died on the cross. There is no greater love than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends. (John 15:13)
Imagine how it would make you feel if someone said, “I think about you so much. My thoughts toward you are even more than the grains of sand on the seashore!” I have good news. That’s the way God thinks of you.
How precious also are Your thoughts to me, O God!
How great is the sum of them!
If I should count them, they would be more in number than the sand. (Psalm 139:17-18)
So here’s my question for you: have you accepted Jesus’ invitation of love? You can begin walking with this wonderful Savior by praying something like this today:
Dear God, I need You to come into my life. I’m done waiting for love and looking for love in the wrong places. I accept Your love through the death and resurrection of your son Jesus Christ. I give my heart to you. Please forgive my sin and come into my life to make it new. Thank you for saving me. Amen.
If you prayed that sincerely, guess what? You have a Mr. Wonderful who will never leave you. Jesus will be the most faithful friend you’ll ever have. Congratulations!
~ Arlene Pellicane
Arlene Pellicane is a stay home mom and new author. She speaks for women’s events, retreats,workshops, and moms groups. She lives in San Diego with her husband James and children Ethan, Noelle, and Lucy. Learn more about Arlene, her new book, and her ministry at ArlenePellicane.com